You Can Easily Be Irritated By "Prick" Subordinates. What Should I Do?

　    每个人都有自尊，愿意听好话，而不希望别人对自己指手画脚，这是人之常情，尤其是对部分有一定能力又具有自恋人格特征的下属，不恰当的批评和在业务上的干涉，常常会激起他们很强的心理逆反，甚至愤怒。或者和领导顶嘴，或者炒老板鱿鱼，这都是领导不愿看到的。而从另一个角度看，这些具有自恋人格特征的下属，往往进取心强，如果用好了，最有可能成为公司得力的干将。对于这样的员工，批评和要求，最好采取首先肯定他的成绩、能力和潜力，然后再具体地指出他工作中需要改进的地方，提出你对他的期望，最后别忘了说一句：“相信你一定能做好。”这样既让他不丢面子，又让他心中有数，还激发了他内在的动力。

For some employees who are highly regulated and dependent, they need to put forward clear and explicit requirements on the basis of respect. Don't be too vague. Such employees tend to be more conscientious in their work, and the spirit of independent innovation is poorer. If the instruction given is too vague, the effect will not be very good.

From the perspective of behaviorist psychology, intensification is divided into positive reinforcement (reward) and negative reinforcement (punishment), advocating the use of positive reinforcement as much as possible and less negative reinforcement. Specifically, leadership art requires more praise and less criticism from subordinates, and more rewards for positive behaviors that meet the leader's intentions, including appropriate material rewards, while "bad money" is good for bad behavior, but it can not be abused. After all, every punishment is a hurting for the enthusiasm and loyalty of subordinates.

When a good leader knows others, he needs not only these skills but also his eq.

Those who can achieve a higher social status are more narcissistic and more controllable than ordinary people. These characteristics can be a source of success on the one hand. On the other hand, there are many hidden dangers for dealing with subordinates. If you are easily irritated by the "under the head" or listening to the opinions of the subordinates, or the subordinates' demands are too high, so that their subordinates are miserable, then you need to reflect on yourself. When you are a small employee, how do you feel if the leader treats you like that?

In your childhood, did your parents and relatives treat you in a similar way? How did your young mind taste?

And why do you treat others the same way when you become a leader?

　　领导和员工各自生活经历留下的“情结”，都会干扰正常的工作关系，而不论是领导和员工，不断在心理上调试自己，对于更好的仕途或“钱”途都是必要的，对于部分心理问题较复杂的人，也可以请心理医生来帮助指导。