Communication Is More Harmonious, Taboo Words.

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< p > China is an ancient country of civilization. How can we communicate with each other to make our environment more harmonious? This requires us to avoid using some words so that we can be better.

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< p > the ancient Chinese standard for gentlemen is "three and": "gentle language, short body and gentle heart."

First and foremost, words are soft and jade. When expressing their intentions, they give birth to joy.

But nowadays, we often use harsh words and harsh language to make others feel hurt, and also to set obstacles for ourselves in the invisible way.

The American Journal reminds us that the following four groups of words should be used with caution.

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< p > "should", "must", "must".

"You must go", "promise me", "you should do this"...

This kind of wording is rigid and condescending. It gives people a sense of oppression and makes the other side feel conflicted.

It is best to change to "can do this", "I suggest", "I think" and so on, and then explain the reasons, for example, "I am too sleepy" and so on.

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< p > "have to".

Expressions like "I have to wash dishes" give negative psychological hints that I have no initiative in life.

Remind yourself: "I love my family and I would like to wash dishes for them."

Things have not changed, but their mood has changed.

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< p > "no", "impossible", "no".

These absolute negatives are like hurting people in front of others, embarrassing people, hurting people's feelings, and blocking opportunities outside.

There is no absolute truth. There is no way out.

We should use euphemistic "not possible" and "may have difficulties" to express.

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< p > "shut up", "hate", "you don't mind".

A stiff refusal brings negative emotions, even jokes. Don't talk freely. If the speaker is not interested, the hearer intends to do so. If someone is serious, it may cause emotional injury.

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P do not want to be disturbed. You can simply express your feelings and needs. For example, "I am very painful now, can you let me calm down for a while?"

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< p > always remember to treat people with soft words and respectful words, so that you respect others and others will respect you more.

Relationships will be graceful and wonderful.

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