How To Get Along With Colleagues In Workplace

Every morning she would greet her colleagues with such words: "you can't guess what happened last night!" she seems to have nothing to say in life except for underground bars, dirty men and alcohol.

Her story may be very interesting, but be careful, you don't want to be the protagonist of one of the stories.

It is said that such a colleague has never left the office.

All day long, all year round, men's desk is stuffed with his sleeping bag, because the office is his home. He lives and breathes for all kinds of reports, business meetings and excel forms. It's really awful to meet such a colleague. He will think of a way to drag you into the same heavy task.

It's not too stressful to deal with such a workaholic. Just give him some extra help occasionally.

In this way, he will thank you, and the boss is praising him.

You will also become part of his desperately small squad.

When your computer is infected with virus, the technology otaku is definitely the person you can send text messages for help.

He is a valiant warrior with your shining sword and shield in twenty-first Century.

But you don't have to be reluctant to discuss hardware and software with him because he doesn't understand.

In this way

It's worth your while baking a muffin for him on his birthday.

In this way, when the office computer group is attacked by a virus, he will first help you to get the computer in return.

No matter what happens, he will yell. A little bit will ignite his anger. No matter what you do, there is no way to satisfy him.

He just wanted to climb up the ladder to success, and you were just a ladder that she climbed up.

To deal with such a person, or to him.

Or nothing, just stay out of anger.

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Generally speaking, in the face of compulsive behavior, we feel very troublesome, hoping to relieve the irrational ideas and behaviors in mind. On the other hand, we also believe that these concepts and behaviors are reasonable and necessary.

So I often say: compulsion is actually doing what we think is meaningless, but not doing inner discomfort, and doing something more entangled in the heart.

Take forced washing.

Compulsion makes us seem to split into two people, one can analyze according to the actual situation, according to the logic of adults, judge the perversion of their metamorphosis, think that washing hands repeatedly, washing clothes, wasting time and effort, and hoping to get rid of it.

The other is that it is necessary to wash several times more seriously if there is a serious infectious disease. This attitude is not commensurate with our actual age and education.

The former represents rational adults, the latter is not rational, blindly afraid, and has immature psychological characteristics of children.

These two people hold their own views, and no one can rule anyone, which constitutes a disease of "knowing what they committed and torturing themselves".

At this time, we must carefully observe our compulsive behavior and recognize the psychological contradictions behind the surface symptoms.

The compulsive phenomenon we see is actually the first thought in our mind (we call it mental compulsion) and then we have the combination of behavior (we call it accompanying ceremony).

Ritual is something that must be done after mental compulsion, temporarily relieving anxiety or guilt or mental behavior caused by mental compulsion.

Suppose we think: "what I touch is polluted" (mental compulsion), then we will do the "washing hands" act.

However, this relationship is not always obvious; for example, if a person with coercive compulsion meets a child whose age is the same age as his child, he will feel that he must continue three times and uninterruptedly turn the 1-10 10 figures back to three times (ritual) because he thinks, "if I don't do this, he will have bad luck".

When we see clearly our compulsive behavior, we can use adult attitude to command our whole behavior and abandon children's behavior patterns.

We can tell ourselves, "this is not me, it is forced to cause trouble", so that I can face up to my compulsive behavior, appreciate it and understand it.

Obsessive compulsive disorder is like a crying child. The more we beat and scold and rebuke, the more psychological it becomes. If we treat him gently, we will understand and listen to him, and things will be different.

So, don't worry about getting rid of your compulsive symptoms, learn to live in peace with the disease.