There Is No Need To Play With People.

People do not have to play with people when they are in contact with others. If they live in such a mask for a long time, people will be very tired.

Case: the pony is a sincere and kindhearted youth.

From then on, the pony felt that the leader did not understand him and began to despise his leadership in his work.

Lin Zi, a senior psychological counselor at Shanghai Lin purple psychological counseling center, said that not only new young people entering the workplace, many qualified professionals are often trapped in this "play" mentality, but they are reluctant to do so.

At this point, we need to adjust our understanding.

In the workplace, most interpersonal relationships are just work relationships, because there is no time to build safe interpersonal relationships that we pursue, nor do we have the energy to manage them.

Too much demand for sincerity between people, like a pony in a case, is actually a child's interpersonal model of his parents, because parents believe that honesty is good.

But in social interaction, the pattern has changed.

When we have a social role, the society has expectations of our role, so we must act selectively so that we can show respect.

If you use the family relationship mode to the unit, you will break the role expectation, and the leader will certainly be uncomfortable.

In today's society, insecurity between people is growing.

In order to facilitate life and work, it is necessary to establish certain connections.

Lin Zi said, "acting" has four situations and needs to be treated differently.

The first is only in the near future. It shows that only one person is at ease. There is no energy to deal with anyone.

The second one is for a long time. For example, a journalist is introverted, and every time he comes back from interviews, he feels frustrated. It is obvious that his personality is different from his job. He should consider changing his job.

The third is social phobia, fear of communication with others, so when you have to communicate with others, you will force yourself to install.

The fourth is that there is always a sense of inner loneliness. He wishes he could be accepted 100% by the outside world, but he always felt that he could not find a friend, so he had to accept this sense of loneliness.

There is always a part of the human inner world that can not be understood and examined 100 percent. It should not be allowed to feel this way. This is not a mistake. It needs to adjust its cognition of this aspect.

"Acting" is very tiring. If you live in this mask for a long time, you will be more tired.

Lin Zi said that if a person feels tired, his support system is bad. He should examine his interpersonal relationship.

If every relationship is utilitarian, it ignores the need of inner emotion. It should explore its own needs and satisfy it.

People have different needs, while "acting" only satisfies one kind of demand functional demand.

People should experience and satisfy their emotional needs in family, friends and family, so that they can balance their personality and reduce their sense of emptiness outside of "play".